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TWO: Orgasms! Multiple and huge! This is guaranteed. I now understand what is meant by power is an aphrodisiac. I used to think that it meant being with a powerful man is a turn on. I now know it means wielding power is a HUGE TURN ON.
THREE: You do not need to be beautiful or worry about losing your relative attractiveness as you grow older; because your dominance will be your primary attraction to your submissive; not your physical appearance.
FOUR: This attribute is frequently misunderstood. Most submissives are very intelligent and very strong individuals. When the domination is paused, they will be your knight in shining armour when you need that. They will be great company when you are on a night out, or watching TV at home. You simply tell them that, until further notice, you will be using them for their vanilla company and there will be no indication from them they are submissive. Yes, YOU HAVE THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS!
I will expand on this attribute a little as it is so important and so often unappreciated. I may spend several evenings a week being dominant and perhaps whole weekends now and again. I may also have given my husband a number of regular housework chores that are always his responsibility, BUT, there may be vanilla events that are important to me. A great TV series on every Monday, or a box set to binge. Or a night out with friends or relatives to enjoy with him.
I will tell my husband that I will not be dominating him that evening or weekend of vanilla activity and I will be using him for his vanilla company. He will not act submissively and I will enjoy his company.
Equally a problem may appear in our lives that needs sorting; perhaps financial or with a neighbour or work related. We all have problems that come up from time to time. Wonderfully, my husband will automatically drop his submissive role and together we will sort the problem.
Finally, on this topic; if say, we are holidaying abroad, and perhaps we unexpectedly end up in a dodgy part of town, there is no submissiveness evident in my husband. On the contrary, he is my knight in shining armour, my assertive protector. I feel safe with him by my side.
So yes, YOU HAVE THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS! A submissive you dominate when you decide and all the benefits that come with that, and an assertive problem solver when you need that and great vanilla company when you need that.
FIVE: A sex life with the same partner that NEVER gets stale! Even after years and years. It remains as exciting as the first time, or probably a lot more exciting! I will explain why shortly.
For the purposes of this blog, a submissive is someone who cannot be truly content both sexually, and as a whole, unless they feel helplessly in the power of another.
IT IS A SEXUALITY ; in the same way being a gay male is a sexuality. It is not a choice. A submissive will usually discover he or she is a submissive before they reach puberty. Most often between the ages of 7 and 11.
While playing child’s games with others, they will volunteer to be the captured victim who gets to be tied up! They fantasise, even at a very young age, of being helplessly in the power of another, who is usually a bit mean, and there will be a sexual element.
As an adult, if their sexual partner does not dominate them, they will not be content with their sex life or with their life overall.
If you question that the submissives I have described exist at all, or that there are very many of them, I ask you; … why do you think all around the world, there are hundreds of thousands of women who work as a dominatrix to meet the vast demand.
Now comes the bit that many find hard to understand. How the mind of a submissive works.
The submissive mind is at first difficult to understand and seemingly paradoxical. The submissive must be coerced to endure things they do not like in order for them to feel truly dominated; validation that they are not in control. If a man consents to everything you do to him, then he is really the one that is in control, and he will feel discontented and ill at ease being the one in control.
If you really love your submissive partner, you must accept they need you to take control and to do some ‘wicked’ things. If you say, ‘ … but I love them too much to be wicked to them‘, well, I would say, if you love them a lot, you will not deny them what they need, nor try, fruitlessly, to ‘cure’ them.
There are limits to this phenomenon. While they feel deeply submissive, (and deeply in awe of you), while enduring theses things they do not like, there will be other things that they do not like, that DO NOT make them feel submissive and stop them feeling submissive. These are their hard limits that have to be respected for the relationship to endure. BUT, sometimes some of their hard limits can erode over time.
In parallel, over time, the dominant may become more dominant and more wicked and this may be to do with changes to hard limits or it may be activities that were not restricted by hard limits, but could grow. For instance, spanking with a hairbrush instead of the bare hand. I mention this phenomenon because YOU WILL come across things on the internet, (or fantasies of your submissive), relating to this lifestyle, that you are very uncomfortable with. But you are in charge; so if there is something you don’t want to do, you don’t have to do it!
You might be amazed at how you evolve over weeks, months and years! Rather than thinking; I will never be comfortable with that! Think instead, I’m not comfortable with that, I wonder if I will be in months or years to come?
A Very Important Rule
This is a rule for you! There are a myriad of different activities enjoyed when people enjoy dominance and submission. It is important to understand immediately that many activities you come across will not be for you. (At least not to start with; you might be surprised how you evolve!)
So do not throw the baby out with the bathwater. The internet may well have many things you are uncomfortable with. When you see something that makes you uncomfortable, remind yourself it takes all sorts, and then move along to what you are comfortable with.
The same goes for your submissive’s fantasies! He will have been fantasising and evolving for many, many years, and possibly getting quite far-reaching, as he may not have taken account of the fact that reality is not the same as fantasy. If he describes an activity that makes him feel submissive but makes you uncomfortable, simply mentally log it and ask what else makes him feel submissive.
You have to be aware when asking him if a certain activity makes him feel submissive or what activities make him feel submissive. An activity may well make him feel VERY submissive but he might be too ashamed to say so. Instead of asking his opinion, a preferable alternative is to tell him you are considering a certain activity. Even if he says he is not sure he would like it, as long as he does not say that it would stop him feeling submissive, you may well have identified an activity that will make him feel submissive.
Weak protests often means you have hit the nail on the head and he can’t wait to be coerced into enduring the activity, even though he may not like the time he spends enduring it. THE PARADOX OF THE SUBMISSIVE! I know that sounds a bit complicated and obtuse but in reality I have never found it to be so because of the ease of getting real-time feedback. I describe how to do that on the page listed on the above menu tab, ‘Your partner is submissive’.
A sex life that NEVER gets stale
There seems to be a natural evolution in a dominant submissive relationship. Some activities I found too bizarre or ‘intense’ to even consider at the outset, are now a part of my wonderful life. Because of this natural evolution as time goes on, your sex life never becomes stale! I can state without exaggeration that after twenty years in my relationship with my submissive, our sex life is as thrilling, fresh and arousing now as the first time.
So I suggest never saying never. You see activities that make you feel uncomfortable, move on, but log the thought that the scope of activities is so vast, that you are assured your sex life will never be stale, and in my case, as with most, you don’t even have to make an effort to keep it fresh. The natural evolution over time does that for you.
Nothing to fear from experimenting
I have known some women, who have discovered their man is submissive, to back away from trying being a bit dominant in the bedroom for fear of getting it wrong, or appearing foolish during a first attempt.
There really is nothing to fear from an experiment I promise you. I set out some ideas for first experiments on the page, listed on the above menu tab, ‘Your partner is submissive’. The paragraphs titled, First Steps. I suggest you read those. Your first forays will be experiments so, to set his expectations appropriately, you could tell him:
- you have never been dominant before and you probably have a lot to learn,
- you are not going to immediately be the dominant woman of his fantasies,
- he will have to be patient,
- you will expect detailed feedback when you ask for it and not before,
- it is an experiment and, by experimenting now, you are not committing to it being a regular thing,
- you will expect him to be grateful because you are experimenting, however it goes.
- Perhaps even – You deserve some flowers just for experimenting! Nice ones, not from a filling station! 🙂
Then experiment! See how it feels taking control for a while. Perhaps being a little bit mean to show you are in control. There is no pressure on you at all and you will have a very grateful man.
I have included below some accounts from happy women who did experiment. You can read those or go straight to the First Steps.
Accounts from women who decided to experiment:
Samantha
I don’t regard myself as an expert but I’m no longer a novice either. What I would say is that I WAS a total novice a year ago. I couldn’t have imagined how the past 12 months would play out after he asked me to dominate him. It’s amazing how quickly you can learn. And how quickly you can embrace it and can no longer imagine life without it. In short, if the man you love asks you to dominate him, go for it! Or at least give it a try.
My husband retired last January. He’s now 62. He was always the breadwinner and the alpha round the house. I had a career in my twenties but gave up when our second was born. I’m basically a housewife and mother. I was staggered when my husband asked me to dominate him. Yes, I wanted to laugh it off, to back away from even trying just trying it. We’d always had a perfectly adequate, straightforward sex life for 32 years, I thought.
I never for one moment thought I’d discover a dominant streak inside me. Of course, I can’t speak for every woman but, if I’ve got one, I suspect all women have too. For me it was a question of opening my mind. And of focusing on all the potential advantages of simply trying to give the love of your life what he’s asked you for and he needs.
As background, it’s important to say my husband has a high sex drive and was a regular masturbator throughout our marriage. I accepted it as harmless and probably necessary, given what I presumed at the time was an imbalance in our libidos.
As Scarlet says, you can learn to be dominant at 21 or 61. I’m 55. Like most women my age, I’m well past my best-before date physically. My husband’s very goal oriented; he had us both teetotal and on diets every January, he would mention my weight during the summer, would point out every grey hair, pat my curvy backside, etc. ‘Loveable’, but tiresome and controlling. Scarlet’s comment about not needing to be beautiful to be dominant struck a chord.
Now, yes, orgasms, multiple and huge! Whilst my enjoyment of the past 12 months has been much more rounded than mere sex, the bedroom has been at the centre of it. For one, I discovered that my libido matches his when conditions are right – as my confidence grew, and as he did more of the chores. Knowing that he does not now masturbate behind my back has been an aphrodisiac. His libido is solely focused on me. Me and my ageing body!
Our sex routine had been the same for years. Mostly on weekend mornings, it worked. But it was a routine. It was boring. For both of us as it turned out. There used to be reciprocal oral sex, but steadily we’d phased that out. He didn’t lick me because I didn’t suck him. He said he assumed I didn’t like him doing it. The truth was that I didn’t like performing oral sex back then and I didn’t want to feel any pressure to do so. Also, I didn’t feel as attractive ‘down there’ as I had when I was in my twenties.
With domination, all that changed. I started requiring cunnilingus as a prelude to sex. Then instead of sex. Then virtually daily. Then during the day too! Whereas it had always been in bed in the old days, me lying back, him between my legs, I soon found I preferred other positions. Me in a chair and him kneeling between my legs. And best of all, me riding his face.
The biggest transformation of all has been his chastity control. The reality is that we’re still on a journey. We enjoy a vanilla life and a non-vanilla life. The first is social, normal; we see friends, play bridge, go to the cinema, a garden centre, or shopping. Our non-vanilla life is private, at home.
At his initial request I keep him on a strict diet. 24/7 during both non-vanilla and vanilla times. As I said, I discovered a dominant streak I never knew I possessed. But controlling his diet has also brought out some wickedness in me which has him in awe of me. I adore contrast; wine for me, water for him, fish for me, lettuce for him, dessert for me, fruit for him. I don’t starve him, of course. He gets his full share of calories, greens, protein and vitamins. But my job was to get his weight down and to keep it there. Whereas he now makes me feel really good about myself and my appearance, regardless of what I eat, drink or how much exercise I do.
We have as far to go as I want, it’s exciting. I want more and more would take him deeper still in awe of me. We’ve even said we wished we started all this earlier.
I was always happy. I just never knew HOW happy I could be. I had insecurities. But becoming dominant – feeling truly dominant, rather than just acting it – has done so much for my confidence. I now know my husband 100 percent loves me whereas I sometimes had those tiny voices in my head before. His demeanour this year has convinced me. I’m 3 kgs heavier than I was 12 months ago. Yet I feel fine about that. He worships my ageing body whenever I allow him. He never mentions my grey hairs or wrinkles any more. Not because I told him not to, but because he actually wants me to feel good about myself to reflect how he feels about me.
In return I’m critical of him because that’s what HE needs. He is turned on by my control. He needs me to decide things for him. And he needs some of my decisions to be tough. That keeps his submissive soul contented. He’s 6 Kgs lighter. He feels great about that too.
I think part of him feels guilty about retiring at only 62. So rather than golf and relaxation for him, I control how he spends his time, which I love, and through which he is utterly content.
Susan
My husband and I started our female led relationship, (FLR), about a year ago. I am 57 and work part-time. He is 65 and retired. So a year ago my husband came to me with the idea of me taking the lead in our marriage. He said he always sensed I had a dominant streak in me (in fact, he admits that is what originally attracted him to me) but I never saw it. But I agreed; and we started slow.
I respect my husband and love him dearly and didn’t want to be mean to him so I would ask nicely for him to do things for me. He said I should stop using words like “please” and “thank you” and just say what I want. So I went from “Do you think you could make us a really nice breakfast?” to “I’m ready for breakfast now. I’ll have bacon, eggs, potato, tea and a muffin. You can start now”. Early on, I would send my husband out on errands and I would stay home and “sneak” doing housework while he was gone. This would disappoint him immensely but I just had so much trouble with guilt.
It took a while but that ALL changed. NOW, I do no housework. He does it all and I love it. He also does most of the cooking. I sometimes enjoy cooking but always hated the clean up. He does that now when I cook. He keeps gas in my car and keeps it washed. I have a rule that if the temperature is below freezing he warms my car up in the morning without being asked. He makes me breakfast that I eat during my commute and he packs me a lunch.
What I find interesting about all this is the fact that even though we don’t have a lot of actual sexual contact, he finds me sexier than ever as I become more comfortable in my new role. We’ve been married for more than 3 decades and I am seeing more affection from him now than I ever did. He rubs my shoulders or my back. Kisses my neck. Runs my bath water and lights candles for me. Pours me a glass of wine. I have seen LUST in his eyes that honestly I don’t think I ever saw before. He rubs lotion onto my feet and legs every night and I will watch him as he gets lost in his thoughts as he watches his own hands run along my skin and by the time he gets to my upper thighs it is obvious he is trying to control his breathing. I enjoy his adoration. In fact, I relish it.
While I am at work, I rarely allow him to have a “free” day to himself. Either I’ve made a list of chores for him to complete or I will text him instructions throughout the day. He knows it is his responsibility to check for my texts. If, by some chance, I’ve overlooked this task he knows I will be disappointed if I come home to nothing being accomplished by him. There is ALWAYS something that needs to be done; so surprise me.
I tell him what to have prepared for dinner if there is something specifically I want but he knows I expect dinner to be prepared either way. We both have Apps on our cell phones that track our whereabouts. I don’t always get out of work on time so he watches for when I’m on the move so he can properly time the meals so they are served fresh and hot. By the way, this App also allows me to track his movements when he’s out of the house. If he is somewhere I haven’t sent him, I will call or text to find out why and he knows he needs to have a good explanation.
At home, we have several indoor and outdoor Wi-Fi security cameras. They are all connected to my cell phone as well, so I can watch him and make sure he is doing his chores. The cameras inside have speakers on them and I can remotely bark orders to him. I’ve scared him on more than one occasion just to get my jollies. “I’ve told you before about leaving cupboard doors open. Close it NOW!” He jumps, closes the door, and giggles while looking straight into the camera and says, “YES MAMM”.
When inside, he is ALWAYS naked unless I’ve otherwise instructed. When dressed, he wears what I’ve told him to wear, which when at home is usually something silky so that he gets to feel it against his cock and balls. When with him, I also enjoy teasing him by rubbing him over his covered silky bottom. Really, the only time he is permitted to choose his clothes is if he is working outside.
He never wears underwear except for when I’ve chosen something for him. I purchased some for various effects. Some are soft and silky, some are tight and confining, some are downright uncomfortable; so that he is still thinking about ME when his mind is on something he otherwise loves doing.
When he first came to me about the domination / submission lifestyle, I assumed this was going to mean my having to show him (more precisely his penis) more attention, but actually the opposite has been true. He knows not to expect anything and fully enjoys the fact that I control when and if he will have any sort of carnal pleasure for himself. He is not permitted to touch my breasts or vagina without permission and now considers doing so a reward. He is absolutely thrilled when given the privilege of satisfying me sexually when and how I choose and I am equally thrilled that after being serviced, with him often having no orgasm, I am free to simply roll over and go to sleep. OR, more likely roll over and have him gently rub my ass as I fall off to sleep.
I have noticed I am finally feeling comfortable in my new role and indeed it is becoming increasingly effortless. We are not done “growing” and look forward to an evolving relationship. And to that end, we both appreciate all the guidance you’ve been providing to us along the way. Thank you, Ms Scarlet!
Sincerely, Susan
Emm
A few months after I had met my husband we were on a holiday abroad. I was 30 and I already was besotted with him and I told him I wanted us to marry. He was elated. (We had really clicked, and I was much younger than him, had a great body and was a well paid, high flyer.) The next day he took me for a walk, He was serious. He said he had an admission to make and he could not in good conscious go forward with a marriage without making his admission.
He began by apologising and saying how sorry he was for burdening me for what he was about to say. He apologised a lot. He asked if I was OK and then said that I would not be able to give a bad response to what he was about to say. Whatever my response, he would understand and his deep feelings for me would not change.
He then told me he was sexually submissive and had been since he was 10 years old. He said he had been unfulfilled in his previous relationships because, among other things, his sex life had not involved his submissiveness. He said he knew, one way or another, I would discover his sexual submissiveness if we were married, so I should know about it now so I could choose not to marry him. He would completely understand. He was close to tears which shocked me because his normal persona was so assertive and in control with other people. He said he could be married to me and as far as I would be aware, he would be ignoring his submissiveness, if that was what it was going to take. But he had to be honest, now.
I was unsure what, ‘being sexually submissive’, meant but I had never had such a fulfilling sex life anything like the one I was having with this man at the time. (Probably because he was submissive and always put my needs well ahead of his in the bedroom. I had never thought about that.) I asked a few questions and I figured I could adapt; and thought he was well worth it. That night, in bed, I looked him in the eye and took hold of his nipple. I pinched and then pinched harder. His eyes glazed a little and his expression was of awe and worshipfulness. I reached down and felt he was rock hard. I loved it! What a simple, easy trick for me to be able to do!
The next day on the coach to the airport I whispered to him that I had enjoyed pinching his nipple and that I liked the feeling of being a bit mean. (Which was true.) A tent grew in his shorts and his eyes radiated worship! Wow, I liked this ease of bringing such arousal and apparent awe!
Back home I had him do some chores for me and he seemed even more loving than ever before. He too was a high flyer and a very powerful individual and I did get a real thrill that I could order this man to do some chores. It was weird but thrilling.
Twenty years later my domination has evolved and is considerable and I am more dominant and wicked than I could ever have imagined. My life is peppered with exhilarating times. I am profoundly happy in every way. He just looks at me like I am the most special Queen in his life, he could not worship me more. And my orgasms, both frequency and intensity are beyond amazing!
And he is still as powerful, assertive and in control with other people as the day I met him!
Emm
Cortney
My name is Cortney – 27 years old – and I have been building a female-led relationship with my partner and submissive, Jordan – 26 years old – for the past seven years.
I believe it to be the pressures of tradition and societal upbringing that naturally caused us to have the male in the dominant role in the bedroom to begin with. You know; the man in charge, sexually dominant and in control, the woman submitting on her knees and pleasuring the man as he wishes. *eye roll*
My mindset change began with realising, first, what I didn’t like. He’d usually be on top, his weight alone pinning me down; he’d pull my hair and occasionally grip my throat; he’d put hand his over my mouth and call me his slut; he’d thrust his dick further in my mouth; he’d forcefully move me into new positions he desired. I felt used, a little degraded and it was distracting me from what I wanted and pulling me out of the mental high we all wish to achieve in sex .
At first, I didn’t speak up – years of oppression conditioned me to be silent. But our relationship was loving and trusting and that allowed me to blossom. I started to say ‘no’, to slap his hand away and resist his dominant acts. He was always fucking me till he orgasmed and I rarely did. I let him know of my dissatisfaction and he looked disappointed in himself, and his mindset started shifting his aim to pleasing me – bringing me to orgasm.
I can remember the first moment I felt in control of my pleasure. I had mounted him of my own volition, kissed him when I wanted to be kissed, gripped his hair and pulled his head back when it was enough. I held his wrists down and used his body, his manhood, for my pleasure alone. I let go of my thoughts, all reservations and inhibitions. I listened to my impulses and acted on them. I felt strong and sexy and empowered, things I rarely felt. Jordan was really receptive, and by the end of it, looked a little lost in a miraculous way. A little in awe of me. From there we started incorporating a little bondage, him relinquishing more control to me, and I would verbalize my dominance over him. We were freeing ourselves from the restraints of societal expectation, not knowing that it’d soon grow into a lifestyle. We both realised that Jordan was a natural submissive although he had been shying away from it.
I used to find it really hard to reach orgasm in the beginning of our relationship, that’d we’d often both become exhausted and I’d give up. Gradually, orgasms began happening more, but still difficult to reach. Then all of a sudden, a few years into our relationship (coincidentally when my dominant element was picking up) I started having multiple intense orgasms – lasting minutes, squirting and leaking so much fluid, legs tensed and aching. It was phenomenal. Then, I never attributed it to the power I was feeling, but it now makes sense to me.
After I began switching roles in the bedroom more often, he was falling further into submission and battling with self-acceptance and societal judgement of what was beginning to feel like his natural place. He liked being used for my pleasure and found himself wanting more intensity and less freedom.
I became fascinated by imposing chastity/orgasm control, and being a bit mean in the bedroom. He accepted that he was deeply affected by being forced to do things he didn’t like. That he needed those feelings.
Jordan now feels he is very fortunate to have a dominant woman as he girlfriend. But I am also fortunate to have a submissive boyfriend so eager to serve, endure and yield to me. He is attentive, patient, loyal, passionate, honest and diligent.
Our female led relationship is a lifestyle choice, not just a kinky sex life. We have other hobbies and responsibilities though. We have vulnerabilities and insecurities and passions. Sometimes, I can be passive, indecisive, or indifferent. I can be empathetic and soft. But we would never change our relationship from me being in charge whenever I wan to be, which is most of the time. We will continue to evolve but I am sure continue to be as content as we are now.
Carla
Hello Scarlet,
I did not have any knowledge of, much less an interest, in domination until my second husband introduced me to the concept in my very early 40’s. My introduction was due entirely to my husband’s interest and desire to experiment with a female led relationship, (FLR). hubby did tell me his desire to submit to women first started as a young teenager. His only actual experience before we met was with a few co-eds in college, and then some professional dominatrices.
While I had always had a pretty satisfying sex life prior to meeting hubby, I had never delved into any form of kink or dominance. From what I have read, my being introduced to this life style by my boyfriend/husband is similar to the experience of many if not most women who come across this.
I will say I did not reject my husband’s suggestions, or find them off putting in any way, and I was willing to play along because I loved him and wanted to please him. Things we did in the first year or so, were always at my husband’s suggestion. At first it was limited to teasing and denial and me insisting he orally please me before I would please him. We added very mild bondage ( scarves etc in bed), and then very light spanking.
hubby had a wool fetish and loved to see me in fuzzy mohair, or angora sweaters; the tighter the better. I soon began requiring that hubby do things for me, or entertain me in return for my wearing a sweater that excited him. It was real power and I got a kick from this power; and he was so adoring when I occasionally used a little real power but he simply idolised me all the time.
As I became more comfortable being dominant, I began to be much more demanding, in part as an experiment to see if he became even more adoring, and in part to see whether making it more intense increased my pleasure. So for example, I became more overt using my real power. I would tell hubby I would put on a particular sweater he loved, and I would sit out on our back porch in it all afternoon, but only if he would strip naked in our backyard (which is private) and then do whatever I told him to. His embarrassed but obedient reaction, and his deep affection afterwards, made it clear that hubby was a true submissive. And at the same time I realized that I enjoyed being in control and being rather wicked and that dominance was soooo dam exciting; and arousing.
It took us about a year to get to this point. From there things ‘developed’. Within another six months he was doing all the chores. And yes I have taken hubby on a heady journey to where we are now. Our relationship is now firmly with me being dominant and quite wicked, utterly sexually content and never lifting a finger in the house. He is utterly content but still my manly man when I want or need him to be.
Carla
Linda
Dear Scarlet,
Ours is a late in life marriage, we both fall into that senior citizen category. My husband introduced me to his submissiveness. I had heard of it, but had never done anything like that. My husband is a widower and his late wife did sexually dominate him. He told me what he was looking for in a relationship. I pretty much said, ‘what the hell’, and gave it a try. We have been together for seven years, married for three.
After a few months of dating I agreed to having normal sex with him but it was very unfulfilling for me. The long and the short of it is that I insisted he get very good at giving me oral and supply and maintain some sex toys to keep me wholly satisfied and that intercourse would not be frequent. It must have ticked his submissive boxes because he contentedly agreed and even talked about me introducing chastity control for him.
He did practice and learn and is now a pussy licking expert. I use him for that a lot and have so many orgasms each week! I have him to all the chores now, in a little apron, and he is utterly content with his life, as am I. I have let into our secret my two grown up daughters and they order him around when they visit and he is obedient to them and deferential. They love seeing how content I am, and he is. They fully understand the psychological dynamic.
I own a small but successful real estate brokerage and he is retired, so staying home and tending the home is easy for him.
Linda
Scarlet's Guide for Women: Sex AND Relationship Nirvana with a submissive 